Being on the internet these days is tough. We're surrounded by people exclusively showing the amazing side of their lives, those people who seem to be constantly on holiday, the ones who get up allegedly get up at 5am to do bloody yoga at sunrise and make you feel a bit shitty for eating your forth biscuit in a row in your pjs at 11am.
There are more and more articles coming out linking poor mental health to the likes of Instagram and the more I think about it, the more I agree with the sentiments. It's so hard to tell yourself you're doing fine when some 20 year old is off seeing the world with their 300,000 followers and you're struggling not to lose any that week because the algorithm complete sucks.
I can't recall the amount of times I've vowed to stop eating pizza when I've seen someone with a flat stomach or a butt you could bounce pennies off. I've told myself I need to drink my body weight in water so I can get skin like that girl. I've almost put myself into debt buying that thing that this other girl has because she looks so cool with it, so maybe I would too?
"And I'm sick of it. I'm sick of feeling like shit because it's easier to hate yourself than it is to love yourself."
But, let me tell you, you wonderful person, you are so worthy of love and you are good enough. Whether that comes from inside or from someone else. Whether you've got thicker thighs and a softer stomach than the average insta gal. Whether you can or can't afford to go on holiday or buy a nice handbag. Whether you have dark circles (holla) or thin lips or hair that needed to be dyed months ago.
Please stop judging your self worth by a snippet of some else's life.
You don't know if that person snaps a seemingly happy photo, writes that inspirational caption and then lets out the biggest sigh. You don't know what's going on in their lives. They might be the most unfulfilled, miserable people and you wouldn't be able to tell.
Success and love aren't always measured by material possessions, having the muscles of a goddess or the amount of planes you've been on. Success can be the smallest things from being able to get out of bed up to getting that promotion you've been working so hard to achieve. Love can be telling yourself you look fire today or knowing that your other half thinks you're the bomb, even if they don't show it all of the time. Love - at least long term love - isn't the amount of interaction you get from strangers on your photo on instagram and you are worthy of more than this instant gratification.
We all need to work on being ok with ourselves and what we have first and foremost.
"Putting yourself first isn't selfish, it's taking control."
So, indulge in those escapist photos of the Bahamas, be happy for that girl who managed to buy herself a new Chanel because she's probably worked hard for it even though it doesn't seem that way and appreciate the time it takes to curate those squares. Take it in and let it go because putting yourself down for it doesn't serve you in any way.